Thinking of an appropriate way to introduce a topic has never been a small feat for me: Especially when it’s a sensitive topic. So today I’m opting to take the easy way out, and go straight to whatever I want to write.
Once, woman and man were considered two essential halves that made up the divine whole. For either soul to achieve spiritual enlightenment there had to be balance between the male and female aspects of each. With time however, our societies grew patriarchal and the once essential half that was woman was disregarded as just a secondary by-product of man. The rise of Christianity and other patriarchal man-made religions saw to it that the woman was demonized, forbidden from sacred places of worship, deemed unclean and unholy, her sexuality branded shameful, and her status solidified as that of the devil’s consort. The centuries that followed were marked with inhumane mistreatment of the woman from torture to bloodshed. The Catholic Church even went to extreme lengths with its book ‘The Witches’ hammer’ which provided a guideline on hunting down and torturing ‘witches’. A massive number of women be it mystics, opinionated free thinkers, learned women, herbalist or medicine women, gypsies, nature lovers, religious priestesses…to name a few, were cast as witches and their fates decided on a burning stake. That was enough to silence the woman and get her in line. The product of that being generations of unsure women with low self esteem, full of guilt for the sinful nature that was ‘woman’s birthright’, grateful for a chance at redemption, and selflessly at man’s disposal. Women make half of humanity, and by crippling its half humanity suffered greatly through gruesome testosterone fueled wars and mindless destruction of nature.
However, it’s not rocket science that nature will always strive to find and maintain equilibrium.
A few more generations in and the winds of change were in motion: A savior, Feminism, was at last born. The woman now had the courage to stand up to man, call him out on his cruelties, demand freedom and equal rights, pursue more than what man or society allowed her, and unashamedly own her body, self and sexuality. The patriarchal society could do nothing but yield under the pressure, and the woman was once again allowed power and say. For a moment there, everyone was happy and it appeared as if everything was finally falling into balance. Still and all, the woman sooner learnt how powerful the feminism card was; she could use it to gain favors, gain passage to victimhood town, guilt the other gender to submission and get away with murder. Now, the battle was no longer about equity and fairness; but about which gender was superior,had the power, or could do it better.
The thing with power is that it’s insatiable, can be intoxicating, addictive and leaves no room for empathy, love or understanding.
In spirit of the power struggles the toxic feminism club came forth. Their agendas included misandry, knee-jerk aggression towards men, not missing a chance to harass, reactionary attitudes, anger and hatemongering, and objectification of men into one demon category. ‘Feminists’ became the bullies they were originally fighting against, and with time drowned out the important concepts.
I am a feminist and my kind of feminism drives at equity and freedom to woman. Simply because giving freedom to women will result in freedom to men. Man and Woman might be different but at the end of the day they are two sides of the same coin. For our society to progress we have to abandon all this stupid debates and understand that neither is superior nor inferior. Man is divinely man and woman is divinely woman.
Spirituality stresses that the only way to experience God is through the opposite gender.
I couldn’t agree more with that. Physical union through intercourse was believed to be one way to achieve spiritual completeness and experience enlightenment. Enlightenment or nirvana is simply a long lasting climax experience where the mind is free of thought. Plus, it’s through the opposite gender that we can truly experience divinity.
It begins with an attraction to her physical attributes. You eventually find yourself in love with her face, body, posture etc. With time the love grows and it’s not just her body but her heart and thinking as well. The more you spend time with her you find yourself drawn to and craving her unique soul, her energy, and her presence. From her soul you fall in love with her being, her femininity, and everything that makes her a woman. Then one day it’s no longer about her womanhood but you love and appreciate her as a human. After sometime her mere existence in your life becomes the reason for your love. A time comes when all you feel is love; irregardless of her body, her heart, soul, being, humanity or her existence. Then you would have found God through your woman or man for God is pure love and each love an echo of God’s. But we can only achieve that if we are able to look at the opposite gender and see a divine spiritual being rather than a means to an end.